I help women make sense of their inner world so they can live, relate, and lead from a place of steadiness rather than survival.

For the past several years, my work has lived at the intersection of emotional regulation, relationships, and identity. What began as coaching and education has evolved into something deeper: a growing body of work focused on how safety is perceived, protected, and restored inside the human system.

This website is home to that work as it continues to take shape.

Peaceful Resolve Membership


Peaceful Resolve Membership is a space for women who want ongoing support, gentle clarity, and practical reflection without pressure or performance.

Inside PRM we explore:

- Emotional regulation without self-blame

- Boundaries without guilt

- Understanding internal conflict instead of wrestling it

- Building safety in the body and in relationships

Peaceful Resolve is not a program you complete - it’s a community and a way of steadying your inner world over time.

Prefer to connect before committing?
These are the places I’m most active:

  • Email list: long-form reflections, insights, and updates (including new work + book progress)

  • Facebook community: real conversations, questions, shared language, support

  • Social media: bite-size explorations of the ideas that matter most.

About Alyssa


Alyssa Decker is an author, coach, and creator whose work centers on helping women understand their inner world and move through life with greater steadiness and self-trust. As a single mom of five, she brings lived experience, practicality, and depth to everything she teaches.

Her work blends compassion with clarity, focusing less on fixing behavior and more on understanding how safety, shame, and survival patterns shape relationships, boundaries, and identity. Alyssa is known for being the rare mix of “I get it” and “here’s what actually helps.”

She is the author of the best-selling book Relationships Are Hard and Other Lies I Believed, and the founder of the Peaceful Resolve Membership, where women receive ongoing support around emotional regulation, boundaries, and internal conflict.

Alongside this work, Alyssa is developing a broader framework for understanding how the human system learns safety and how those patterns can be gently reshaped over time.

JOHN DOE